Finding Strength of Will

There are many reasons why being married to a woman is good enough for me, and in some ways better or easier for me than being with a guy. Jealousy .  Maybe this is unique to my wife and I but as this is about me and what works for me, it certainly is applicable:  neither of us is jealous of friendships that either of us has for either gender.  In addition, if one of us likes and is friends with a guy or a girl, the other is as well.  I suppose this isn’t entirely true — there have been a time or two that I’ve been jealous of Wrylon talking to another guy…when he was paying more attention to her than he was to me. No competition .  My attractions to men do not cause Wrylon the worry it would if I were attracted to women.  She doesn’t have the right parts and so there is no pressure on her to try to compete for my attention in that area. Sexual attraction .  This may seem counter intuitive but there are several factors in this area that m...

Edited and updated. I've always tried to portray a very positive attitude when writing about my husband being SSA. For the most part that is very accurate. There are hard things too. The longer we are it though the more I realize that all marriages are just as hard.  We all have trials that we go through to make us stronger and ours is no different.  I think as long as a SSA person has learned to have healthy relationships with their same gender and they keep strong in their marriage then it is no different than being in a “normal” marriage which also will always have its issues too. As Will has grown emotionally he has taken more notice of people and their reactions/actions to people around them and now understands them better too.   He has noticed that some guys he is around, really like being around girls. Yes, obviously, but let me explain more.  He and a good straight guy friend, who both enjoy each other’s company, will be talking alone. A gal wil...

These letter were written just a few days after "coming out" to myself.  I was still barely accepting myself at the time and it took tremendous courage to even write this.  But the writing of it was very freeing and I was continuing to gain valuable insight and growing at a tremendous rate. The Third Letter: I don’t plan on publicly “coming out”.  I see no purpose for it.  But if someone asked, I think I would tell them. So I’ve been thinking about what I would tell them.  Maybe it would go like this: Him:  You’re sure sensitive for a guy -- are you gay? Me:  What, no! That’s what I keep saying in my mental role-play with myself.  Apparently it’s going to take a while to get used to this. I think I’m struggling because I don’t associate myself with the term “gay”.  A gay guy is someone that wears tight clothes that are a just to flamboyant to look normal on Brad Pitt, and someone who is likely to be caught giggling, talks with a high/soft...