Finding Strength of Will

There are many reasons why being married to a woman is good enough for me, and in some ways better or easier for me than being with a guy. Jealousy .  Maybe this is unique to my wife and I but as this is about me and what works for me, it certainly is applicable:  neither of us is jealous of friendships that either of us has for either gender.  In addition, if one of us likes and is friends with a guy or a girl, the other is as well.  I suppose this isn’t entirely true — there have been a time or two that I’ve been jealous of Wrylon talking to another guy…when he was paying more attention to her than he was to me. No competition .  My attractions to men do not cause Wrylon the worry it would if I were attracted to women.  She doesn’t have the right parts and so there is no pressure on her to try to compete for my attention in that area. Sexual attraction .  This may seem counter intuitive but there are several factors in this area that m...

After my last post, I wanted to share some happier thoughts so chose to share some of my responses to me coming out.  I loved each of these because they were real, from-the-heart responses.  The authenticity of them did a lot to alleviate my anxiety at sharing.  Here are my favorites: I had no idea! (jaw drop) Wow. Does your wife know? How does that work? So are those really your kids? But you and your wife love each other so much?! Thank you for trusting me with that.  It doesn't change how I see you. Really?  What can I do to help you? Well that explains a lot. I wanted to add to the statement:  "It doesn't change how I see you."  Not true.  How people see me has changed, but how could it not?  Learning something new about someone does cause me to reflect on my perceptions of them.  And on top of that, there’s a lot about my character that's different now as I’m no longer suppressing significant parts of it.  Also, I ...