The need for intimacy, for connection, and the attraction to others is the foundation of same-gender attraction. The complexities and pain come from a lack of understanding of our need for connection, both personal and in society as a whole, combined with greed, pride, doubt, and fear of something different from accepted norms. The solution is what it has always been: love, acceptance, patience, moderation, hard work. My son taught me this today. As my wife and I get more comfortable with our situation, our conversations are getting more and more open. In addition,we have been to firesides hosted by SSA groups and have taken our kids, been to dinner with like minded individuals, we plan on volunteering at a local center supporting LGBT youth, and we are blogging about it. My children are observant but most are young enough be in that wonderful state of ignorance from innocence. My preteen son has begun to take notice. My wife and I well aware of the need for privacy or being se